Marriage in God's Will: Permissive or Perfect?

I understand your trying to decide on whether our being together is permissive or perfect will. I already know the answer I think. It will be permissive. Any marriage is permissive. Marriage is an earthly desire that we choose for ourselves. That doesn't mean that God's doesn't have say in the matter. He may not even have a perfect match for us because the dynamics of any relationship would ultimately doom everyone to being everyone to only being able to full fill a permissive will. There won't be a perfect mate but God might have several good choices in mind for us. Any of these matches would be in God's perfect will. God mentions in the bible that a guideline for getting married is that you should marry another Christian. Although that isn't absolute law that must be followed. I know when I married Tiffany was the right choice. It very easy could have been a perfect match. I don't want to upset you but I was happily married to her. It was ultimately her choice to leave though and I was along for the ride. My future is pretty bleak that simply because I am not with a perfect match anymore that I can never get back into God's perfect will. I don't believe that God's perfect will is a rigid as that. It could have easily been that Tiffany was a permissive choice also. God's will bless your marriage even it is perfect or permissive. I do not regret my first marriage as God gave me 2 beautiful and wonderful children from it. I know that God's Blessing was in that marriage at one point or else I wouldn't have been blessed with them. I really can't believe that simply because I am divorced that I would be condemned to ever be in God's perfect will with someone else now.

I truly believe that God allows us to marry anyone that we desire and he would like us to follow the restriction of marrying another Christian but really more of advisement to the latter. Although I do believe that once two people are legally married then that will become God's will. He will place his blessing upon that marriage no matter what if we ask for it. I think he would even do that if a Christian would marry a non-Christian. God will place his stamp on it that no man should separate them and we can't take it upon ourselves to decide the it was not God's will. God's will is to get married and stay married. That is what will decide what is perfect or permissive. Perfection is after all a process to work towards. A marriage could start out as permissive but if both of us are in God's will then we will be able to work into God's perfect will and be stronger for it. If we get married and have GOD with us, he will guide us together how to stay in his will. It is us who will have to make God the center of our relationship and to keep us strong in our relationship. As long as we decide to work on our relationship, it will work out. Marriages are like engines. They only require a spark to get started but they will require maintenance you have to keep gas in it, you need to change the tires, check the oil, keep it from overheating among other things.