Newton's Law of Attraction applied to Personality Flaws

 

People sometimes tend to hide themselves and do this quite a deal more often online. We have a habit of not liking to admit our flaws. This might be because it makes us feels like failures or inadequate but that is hardly the case. Those flaws are just a part of whom we are and should just be accepted as to how things are.

 

There isn't any cosmetic surgery that can change or improve bad habits or personality traits that are undesirable.

 

Why do people fear to let others know exactly what so-called flaws they are?

 

Society might be partially to blame as the desire to find perfection becomes more all consuming. I think it is time that people start re-evaluating there life and traits.  Just because you think you have some flaw might not be all that might and doesn't mean that it is a weakness.

 

I, for example, think I suffer from laziness and procrastinate to much while those certainly can have the negative effects they are not flaws. It simply just how I am most comfortable operating. I might still have those qualities but when given the chance you can learn to prepare for them and use them to your advantage.  Some martial arts teach you to use your enemies strength against themselves in order to win a battle. Well I am suggesting you use your so called flaws against the enemies of yourself to turn them into advantages.

 

This may be easier said then done but there are always two sides of a coin so for every negative there is about something there is an equal and opposite positive. This is the nature of the universe.  Newton defined the laws of attraction himself and they tend to be rather universal. So why not be able to apply them to personality traits.

 

Laziness might cause you to be untidy but it could just be your body saying you need to take more breaks and not work so hard. It might also be your sub-conscious way of remind you to not let things get untidy so that you don't have to fight your laziness. 

 

Selfish is supposedly a bad thing but some things are worth being selfish over. If you just worked all day to make a cake for yourself, then you should have to fill guilty about not sharing it. That is a symbol of your hard work to treating yourself. I feel that people should actually give themselves a chance to be selfish. Giving and helping others is good and fine but you can't let forget to be true to yourself and just take time to have some "ME" time. I would say you should be selfish over your significant others as well.

 

I know some might say "Oh we have an open relationship."  That is all good for you all but I think being selfish over the one you love is a noble and great symbol of love. Your saying that you care for someone so much that you don't want to share that special intimates except with the one you cherish the most.

 

I remember a story about a home education class. A speaker had come to class one day and passed around a rose. She encourage each person to examine it and look over it, which they did and passed around the class of 30 or so people.  Now roses like any flowers are fragile and if you have 30 people passing it around prodding and examining it. It will start to wilt and petals might fall off and the steam might break.

 

Once the rose reach the speaker again it didn't look nearly as lovely and pretty as it did when it had started.  She related that flower to love. If you pass it around too much it tends to wilt and break and lose some of the qualities that make it cherished. I think this also demonstrates a good way to be selfish about your loved one.

 

I am sure if you really think about yourself and what your so called flaws are you might discover that they are not as bad as you once thought. Try to see the positive in those flaws because they are there. So embrace them and make them work for you.

Today...

Nothing too witty or smart today just a few things of what is going on with me. Currently I am going to school at Junior College working on business degree. I have already graduated from a technical school for electronic technology. Pretty much I could work on anything that has anything to do with electronics from house wiring to repair cell phones. I actually learned how to make a stun gun out of disposable camera's in school. Isn't knowledge cool?

Computers are my passion though. I have built my last 3 computers. All of which I still have. I wouldn't dare buy a pre-built from a company ever again like dell or whatever. Just too much hassle dealing with the tech support that isn't really helpful and too much trouble to have to send the thing off to have it repaired. You might say "Oh there is the Geek Squad these days!"
Well I would advise against that unless your really desperate. I have heard a few scary things about those geeks. Such as them trying to pull out video cards with out first removing the retaining screws. Ick! That would be painful to watch as much as imagine. I would eventually like to start my own business doing computer repair and possibly a little retail for computer parts in the town I live in.

For those that care, my divorce from the wicked witch is just about final. I will get the 15 days out of every month which comes out to 6 months out of the year. I have to pay 175 dollars in child support to the witch but I plan to come back and fight that when I am more settled. For those first time readers please note that I do not judge me to harshly by my referring to my ex. As a witch. Just is hard for me to think nicely about her when the last few years of your life had felt like Jerry Springer Episode. She might not be a bad person but to me that is what she has become. Anyways back on topic. I made out pretty well for a father to get so many days straight off especially in Texas which is very hard to win against a mother in. It is a good stepping stone for when I come back for more later though so I can't complain too much.

My children are getting smarter and bigger every day. I hate that I can be with them every day to play with them and read them bedtime stories. Be able to kiss them good night every single night everything a full time father is supposed to be able to do. It always makes me mad when I think about how much the wicked witch is depriving me of simply because she wasn't happy with our marriage. Her decision divided my time with my children and it is hardly fair that I should have to suffer for that. Guess I am preaching from my soap box now but that is just how I feel. It is just one of those things I guess.

Well, can't think of anything else to say at the moment. So have a great day and feel free to post comments as always.

Wild Rides

Most people would consider roller coasters fun. The speed, the shaking, the twists, turns, up and downs, and the heart pounding fun from it. When that roller coaster is Life though; Well that changes the fun and thrill of the ride. People enjoy having a nice smooth ride and not have unexpected pit falls. They like when the ride goes up but don't care for the downs. That is how my life feels sometimes. I feel like a roller coaster that has been spiraling downward, faster and faster for what seems endlessly, even worse it is through a dark tunnel and I rarely see the light at the end. Since the wicked witch a.k.a my ex wife left me torn and my life shattered that is how my life has seemed. I lost a lot of my passion for life and become lost and confused. I was desperately seeking something to fill that void. I never really found anything that helped too much. One day though I meet someone although it was online.

The thing about cyberspace is you can be anyone you want because it what seems to be the truth can be altered so easily. You can show only the part that you see. This can be done face to face to an extent and it is done but online it becomes so much simpler except to the most observant of people.

Back on subject though. As time went on I got even more desperate and lost more faith. I even questioned life it self sometimes. I wondered if it was really worth all the pain. Eventually I found someone who brought a faint light back into my world. The tiniest sliver of hope was realized once more and passion and ambition was seeping slowly back. I have always tried to be helpful regardless of how I felt and I always try to do what I can to help out those I feel have been treated unjustly but I am still a human and I make mistakes. Sometimes life just comes in and beats you down again to remind you that your really not in control. That tends to happen more then I would like sometimes and it usually means that I cut off people from even having a chance to talk to me. What can I say when your jaded like me, then it is extremely hard to trust people sometimes. I have neglected this blog recently but there are a lot of things I have neglected lately and I am trying to correct that failure. I have made mistakes and I hope to fix those as well. It wont be easy but it must be done. There is someone I greatly admire for being there for me even when I didn't make it easy. They have shared pain and heart ache with me and I had been scared to open up and let them in at times. They usually break through in time and help me to see what I have done wrong. I am sorry that I can be so difficult sometimes but such is who I am and not easily changed. I am truly thankful to have known them and sorry if I have ever caused them pain or sadness because of me.

I hope to start keeping this blog more up to date whether anyone reads or not I feel it is important that I use it to remind in the very least myself of how far I have come from a very dark place where I had dark clouds hanging above me daily.